After working on a new vlog with my son, I realized something about myself that made me very self-conscious. Writing it out makes it seem somewhat simple and not important, but it was something that really caught me by surprise. One would imagine it to be something I had on or something I said, but it was neither of those. What I noticed about myself was that I smile–uncontrollably. Sounds silly, doesn’t it? Well it was a cause of concern for me. Each time I spoke a big smile emerged on my face. Some would wonder why I would see this as an issue. It’s just a smile, right? For me, it’s more than a smile; it’s an irregularity, an insecurity. It doesn’t seem “normal.”
As I watched myself on the camera I started to dislike the person I was looking at. I quickly turned it off, and I immediately felt a sense of disgust. Yes, I was disgusted at myself.
I’ve always dealt with several “irregularities” about myself that I felt were not “normal.” Honestly, the whole idea of being normal is overrated and superficial. In my sixth book, Suffering in Silence, I wrote an entire chapter about the pursuit of being “normal.” Here’s a little of what I wrote:
“I was chasing after an image that was not real or attainable mainly because it was a figment of my imagination. I formed my idea of what was normal from what I saw on television and the people around me.” “I was trying to chase after this perfect image while ignoring the perfection of how I was created. I was so dissatisfied with myself that I never looked in the mirror to accept who God created me to be.”
Those are beautiful words, but I must admit that I still struggle with the man I am today and the man God has called me to become. I still judge myself by my insecurities, and I sometimes doubt whether or not God chose the right vessel. Sounds silly, doesn’t it? It’s very silly. Who am I to challenge what God chooses to do on the basis of my insecurities? You should probably ask yourself that same question.
I ask that you join me in putting aside your insecurities once and for all for the sake of obedience. I wonder how many people have hesitated to obey God because of their insecurities. I don’t have to search very far to convict someone of that sin because I am a culprit. I have absolutely no rocks to throw at anyone else. Yes, I smile uncontrollably. I have many things about myself that separates me from the masses, but I’ve learned that value isn’t found when everything is similar. It’s found in the beauty of what’s different and unique. Embrace the unique qualities about you that are beyond your control. End your quest for being normal, and don’t allow your insecurities to cause you to hide the light that’s been lit inside of you by Christ. Let’s continue to discipline our bodies, renew our minds, humble ourselves, and receive discipline from the Holy God. Embrace the beauty of God’s creation, and let’s obey His word and promptings immediately.
Stay focused on the narrow path. Eternity is a heartbeat away.
I can run a 5K like it’s nothing, but having to park far away from an entrance is ungodly!
The reverse is also true. How we spend our time and what we focus on matters.
I can; I will; and, NO, obedience isn’t optional.
What a service this morning! I preached the final message in this month’s series on leadership—Columns and Cracks. I taught on the tests of leadership—the test of sacrifice, the test of faith, the test of honor, the test of time and the test of character. The worship though!!!!!! They should’ve just handed me a pillow and blanket because I was good on the floor. I love our church, @thegatheringoasischurch. Next month I’m teaching a series called LIFE CHECK-UPS. It’s important that we get routine check-ups from time to time. I’m dealing with the motives of our heart, our love towards our neighbors and enemies, our effectiveness in service and what we do with our treasure. Let’s go! cc: @thegatheringoasischurch
I’m excited about service this morning! I’m continuing my series on leadership. #columnsandcracks
Come join us today! Service is starting shortly!
While it’s never fun or easy to go through a pruning process, I’ve learned that it’s purposeful. So, I accept it for what it is and remain hopeful for what’s to come. When what’s old has left, there’s room for something new.
Being a father has changed my perspective on life. I have a responsibility to teach my children how to live according to the Word of God, but my greater responsibility is to live a life that’s honorable so they can emulate what they see. And, I want to give my kids the greatest gift I could give another person—believing in them so much that they develop the courage to jump when everyone else is standing still. To my firstborn, my leader, we’ll jump together. Then, you’ll lead the others.
The misconception is that God is absent in the presence of trouble. That simply isn’t true. Oftentimes, we perceive the trouble we’re in to be more of a reality than the presence of God. That’s because we’ve focused on the trouble. We become consumed with it. We talk about it constantly, which does nothing to fix it. We must keep our eyes fixed on the Lord realizing that He’s with us, and the trouble we find ourselves in can be used for His glory. We can mature because of it instead of caving and quitting in the midst of it. We must recommit ourselves to prayer, meditating in the Word of God, consistent church attendance at our local church and godly counsel. This helps us to refocus so what’s troubling us doesn’t trouble us!
Men, we’re headed to Miami in 2019! I’ve asked some of my friends, who are champions in their own way, to speak next year! You will be inspired, encouraged, and equipped by this powerful, life-changing conference with men from around the world. Early bird registration is available now!
Visit www.TheManCaveConference.com [link in bio] to reserve your pass.
Conference includes our inaugural Man Cave Champion Competition, worship night, breakout sessions, worship gatherings, special Q&A session/mixer with the ladies from Pinky Promise & much more.
Make it a guy’s trip down to Miami, Florida! It’s going to be epic!
Whatever I have is yours. The man I’m becoming is for you. My hopes and dreams are no longer singular but intertwined with your future. Our linage will impact nations, and God will be glorified. Now, come here pretty woman and touch the hem of my garment! 🙌🏾😎 #fbf